If the people around me could hear my thoughts 'what a bitch' would sound out loud and clear.
I go to Starbucks, the grocery store wherever, I look at what women and men are wearing and how they are wearing it. Maybe it's leftover from my pants fitting journey, but I look at what people are wearing and I make judgments. Silently of course unless I am with someone and then I'll comment out loud. Guys, you look really tacky in muscle shirts. Both women and men, dirty flip flops are not attractive at all. I don't like flip flops really at all but dirty, falling apart? Get a pair of shoes! Ill fitting clothing abounds and mom jeans, well there are a lot of those out there. Women, these are not flattering! Too short, too tapered and wear them with sneakers? Bad. Ill fitting t shirts are another biggy that I see. Especially on older women and they often have awful designs printed on the front. Men seem to like the advertisement t shirt. It doesn't fit them well either. It's also ugly. When I see a well dressed man or woman, well what a treat. At Starbucks on Saturday I saw a man wearing a nice long sleeved knit shirt and great fitting pants. Nice shoes too. One in a sea of badly dressed men. I did see a couple of women who looked good. Clothing fit, shoes or boots were clean and polished and not worn down at the heel. Nice haircut and light makeup. They looked good without a lot of effort. It doesn't really take all that much time to look good. You don't have to spend a lot of money either.
It used to be that if you were a feminist you weren't supposed to care about clothing or how you looked, but to me it says that you lack self esteem. It is particularly prevalent in older women. Hey, just because we are past menopause doesn't mean we can't look good and feel good about ourselves. I really think that these things go hand in hand. You have gained some weight? Baggy clothing doesn't hide it. You are still worth it. You can still look and feel good about yourself. I turned 60 this year and you know what? I like myself a lot better than I did at 20. I enjoy dressing well, putting on makeup and having a great haircut. It's not what I wore at 20, thank goodness, but I look good for the woman I am now.